The REAL Conversation

September 28th 2015

When you pick up your phone in the middle of lunch, or a conversation, or a meeting, you are probably thinking:

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  • Oh, my spouse/friend/parent/boss just texted me. I MUST read it RIGHT NOW.
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  • Everybody at the table wants to know X. I’ll just Google it and get the answer.
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  • Nobody’s paying attention to me. I think I’ll just scroll through my messages for a few minutes.
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All of this makes sense from inside your head. But here’s what the real humans in front of you are thinking:

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  • Crap! There he goes again. Checking out. 
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  • This happens all the time when I’m with him. I guess I’m just not interesting enough to hold his attention.
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  • I hate this. I hate being ignored. I hate the fractured conversation. Please put your damn phone away.
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When you choose an inanimate object over a real human, you express your preferences. Here’s the thing: the text you are responding to and the data you are looking for aren’t going to be there when you are hurting or in trouble and need help. 

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But the humans in front of you just might. Respect them, value them, and give them your full attention.

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communication, professional development, leadership, management

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